In my latest newsletter I shared how instead of having those big goals and lists – I am embracing the concept of ‘ Going Little’. To make clear intentions of where I want to focus but not to fill my days with un needed pressure and constant striving.
Going Little is all about focusing on the small things. Noticing those small wins, finding joy in the ordinary and the every day. And it can be applied in all aspects of your world. If you are worried that this means you will miss those big opportunities – try and think of it as looking after the pennies so the pounds look after themselves .
Starting with your self relationship it’s about making time in your day to fit in those things which actually lift you .. that hot cup of tea, actually reading your book as a purposeful activity, being present on that walk to see what’s around you, enjoying those short ‘ coffee cup’ interactions you have throughout the day , tackling 1 task at a time.
Then seeing how this applies in your main relationships.
So often in the clinic space what has stopped happening is appreciation. Not the expensive buying of gifts or extravagant gestures – in fact these can sometimes be seen as ‘ trying to hard’. But feeling as though your partner noticed the jobs you did today, the touch on the shoulder as you go past one another, saying good bye, hello and good night , making their favourite meal without agenda, filling the car up without mentioning it or watching their programme even though it’s not really for you.
These small things over time will make big differences.
Perhaps with your children it feels all about getting them places on time and meeting their ever growing needs. Going little might mean saying Yes to simply playing with them and giving them your undivided attention. Having raised 5 children across the years I can confirm that undivided attention gives much Joy and actually takes less time than them constantly trying to get your attention.
We live in a world which seems to demand we go big or go home , where you constantly are reminded of what achievement should look like. It relentless and can feel exhausting – and we miss out on what is right there already – constantly searching for what is next because nothing feels big enough.
So this year consider what it means to step back and ‘ Go Little’ – watch those small wins and moments of Joy build their own momentum and see how this creates beautiful relationships with yourself and those around you . For support in your relationship please do get in touch via the website or book a free initial consult at https://calendly.com/bemooretherapy/discovery-call
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