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I’ve shared a few times that my favourite book is Wuthering Heights… and that I have at least 12 different copies of it and have read it multiple times.  Please note there is a spoiler alert in this blog… a big one ! What I have realised is that over the years both as I […]

Whenever I think of Joy now, I always picture the character from the Inside Out films. Always happy, always solving problems, always being there for others. To be honest she wasn’t my favourite – it seemed to be quite exhausting! More recently though I have been drawn to explore the concept of Joy and especially […]

So many discussions in recent sessions about having to step back and see your partner for who they are, right now. Of course, it doesn’t start like this – it starts with what they find annoying or upsetting about their partner.  … and I will say there is often a need for this behaviour to […]

When individuals or couples come into the clinic space to talk about relationships thank very often start by telling me all about the challenges they face with the other person or people. They talk about how the other person behaves and what they do and how that annoys them or frustrates them they talk about […]

I did a social media post recently on the concept of TMI in people’s relationships – which is ironic because I think due to social media, we have a case of TMI. But here’s my thoughts all the same. It seems that we have very few boundaries in place nowadays. And this leads to conflict […]

This always feels a tad controversial because we so often hear about controlling partners and looking for those red flags… but quite often when we do some self-reflecting, you might realise that you are actually controlling your partner. Whilst a controlling partner will often deliberately put obstacles in place everyone of us will have some […]

.. plus a few insights into my on line dating experience ! Dating today is a lot different to when I first dated. And even though I did meet my now husband online it was over 14 years ago when there were just a few sites and people still actually met in person as well! […]

As an analytical therapist my goal is to help individuals look in themselves and see what they are feeling, what they are bringing to the table and how they are being impacted and why … in couples sessions this can be a bit of a change for those involved as they are often in a […]

Conflict or Rupture is a part of all relationships – no one has a relationship that never needs some attention. If conflict feels too big a word think more about debate, discussion, difference of ideas or wants or needs. For the most part it happens organically – people can often find themselves in the middle […]

Compromise makes a relationship right? Well not for me. I don’t like let alone love compromise and here’s why … It sounds negative. It sounds like 1 person has needed to give something up. And I know from sessions it can often be seen this way as well. ‘I’m always having to compromise’ is a […]

This is another new word coming into fashion especially in our more open relationship world… but really it can apply to any agreement or commitment so firstly what exactly is micro cheating? Micro cheating is when you do something small that breaks the rules of engagement … when you do something which you know your […]

So much is being talked about in the open relationship space  … the term consensual non monogamy or the new monogamy – throuples, pods, polyamorous – it’s all happening – but what does it mean nd how do you get t started exploring this. So, let’s start with the clear difference about what happens when […]