Category: Understanding Yourself

I did a social media post recently on the concept of TMI in people’s relationships – which is ironic because I think due to social media, we have a case of TMI. But here’s my thoughts all the same. It seems that we have very few boundaries in place nowadays. And this leads to conflict […]

This always feels a tad controversial because we so often hear about controlling partners and looking for those red flags… but quite often when we do some self-reflecting, you might realise that you are actually controlling your partner. Whilst a controlling partner will often deliberately put obstacles in place everyone of us will have some […]

.. plus a few insights into my on line dating experience ! Dating today is a lot different to when I first dated. And even though I did meet my now husband online it was over 14 years ago when there were just a few sites and people still actually met in person as well! […]

As an analytical therapist my goal is to help individuals look in themselves and see what they are feeling, what they are bringing to the table and how they are being impacted and why … in couples sessions this can be a bit of a change for those involved as they are often in a […]

Conflict or Rupture is a part of all relationships – no one has a relationship that never needs some attention. If conflict feels too big a word think more about debate, discussion, difference of ideas or wants or needs. For the most part it happens organically – people can often find themselves in the middle […]

Red Flags – these are behaviours / actions / traits in people that are really to help us filter in and out people – and to think about whether to proceed with caution! They can be very personal to you and not so serious or they can be real warning signs. These more serious red […]

I have spoken a number of times about how the self-relationship is key when understanding your relationship with others. Not just from a how you were brought up and how your idea of relationships was shaped but how you feel about yourself. That feeling can change on a regular basis and sometimes there can be […]

Be Your Own Life Coach!– Kieran Fitzpatrick –ADHP FIAEBP So the summer is coming to an end and the evenings are drawing in. And with the darker days and evenings people often and naturally feel less energetic and optimistic and sometimes begin to find it difficult to keep up activities that they were involved in […]

I turned 50 in June … it was a big one. That’s what everyone says – ooh it’s a big birthday and I admit I had lots of thoughts about it. When I turned 40, I was excited! I had a big party – 40’s themed. I was at my best self-health wise having not […]

The Relationship Conflict Within You. If you thought searching for that relationship one was already difficult enough, here I go about to give you some info which will dive into that even further – so apologies in advance for that 😊! I hate to break it to you, but your mind is already in conflict […]

However what it has done has made me really think about the relationship people have with therapy and start to re question why people are still often wary of seeking help from a therapist and of course speaking about it to others.

This blog is slightly different to the one I had expected to write following on from last week. I was planning on writing about how we are often defined by that title or label or that place we come from – that external persona we use to interact with the world … and I guess […]