Category: Relationship Audit

This weekend was my birthday weekend, and I am very blessed to have a husband who aways puts a lot of thought into what to do and what to get. In return I do the same – although honestly, I feel I am much easier to buy for than him – but that’s another blog […]

Red Flags – these are behaviours / actions / traits in people that are really to help us filter in and out people – and to think about whether to proceed with caution! They can be very personal to you and not so serious or they can be real warning signs. These more serious red […]

I have spoken a number of times about how the self-relationship is key when understanding your relationship with others. Not just from a how you were brought up and how your idea of relationships was shaped but how you feel about yourself. That feeling can change on a regular basis and sometimes there can be […]

Such an interesting phrase I came across lately. It was referenced by the fabulous Dr Tammy Nelson and of course it is not just marriage but referring to long term relationships (LTR’s) in general. When it says practise it doesn’t mean you are on a trial run – although there is a view form those […]

It been a real theme since the start of the year – couples/ relationships who feel uncomfortable talking to their partner about their intimate needs. And they are not alone! 42% of individuals who were asked if they could have these kind of conversations stated they didn’t feel about to really talk about it.  … […]

Because at the end of the day couples therapy is about the relationship but it’s actually about the individuals themselves – it’s about everything they bring into that relationships and how that dynamic then plays out.

I turned 50 in June … it was a big one. That’s what everyone says – ooh it’s a big birthday and I admit I had lots of thoughts about it. When I turned 40, I was excited! I had a big party – 40’s themed. I was at my best self-health wise having not […]

The Relationship Conflict Within You. If you thought searching for that relationship one was already difficult enough, here I go about to give you some info which will dive into that even further – so apologies in advance for that 😊! I hate to break it to you, but your mind is already in conflict […]

.. and how do relationships evolve and grow? This question for a number of reasons has been weighing on my mind – and today when I noticed it was National Telephone Day, it felt like so the right time to get this blog out there! It’s a longer one than usual but a topic I […]

Conflict – it happens in most relationships – whether it’s loud and shouty or it’s general disagreement or you both skirt around the issue in a passive aggressive kind of manner – it’s conflict and sometimes it creates healing and resolution when things get brought up and other times it escalates or drags on – […]

It’s a common theme in the clinic room – It’s a communication breakdown – but strangely enough talking may not be enough. Because communication is so much more than conversation! While it may sound a bit cliché there is actually a set of love languages – and the science shows that how people like to […]

This is a question which people individually and as couples bring up a lot in sessions. They are already evaluating their relationship and therefore it is common to start to think – how does this compare to others? Of course the fact is there is no generic normal .. yes there might be stats on […]